How does a girl take control without being to sexual?

im going to make this short and sweet im planing to make out with my boyfriend the friday and yes we have made out before but my friend told me that he was talking with him and he said he likes the girl to take control. how do i do this without being to sexual like im not going to straddle him and stuff like that note im pretty Young like this might sound crazy but im 13 hints why i don't want it to be too sexual. any ideas to take control with?